Talk:Chloe Carmichael/@comment-38040628-20190418010530/@comment-34984666-20190423170549

Chloe has Emotional Perfectionism and Thinking Styles

Emotional perfectionism tends to be linked to thoughts which are associated with self-criticism, and a lack of self-compassion. Examples of this include:

‘I should never feel sad/scared/inadequate/vulnerable.’

‘I must not let them see how I really feel – they will think I’m losing my grip.’

‘I need to stay positive because I don’t want to upset my family. They need to believe that I am coping.’

These thoughts reflect an unrealistic aim of controlling and suppressing our deeper feelings, and a denial of our natural, human, emotions. Over time, they can lead to emotional distancing, out of fear that if we ‘let go’ then we will be overwhelmed by sadness.